Actress Ryan Michelle Bathe Opens Up About Her Experience Growing Up With Corporal Punishment

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Ryan Michelle Bathehas created her own path when it comes to parenting her two children — and it’s one that doesn’t mirror her childhood.

In an exclusive essay for PEOPLE in this week’s issue, the St. Louis-raised actress opens up about her younger years, which often included physical punishment.

“When I was growing up, where my culture and religion intersected,corporal punishment was the orderof the day,” writes Bathe, 42.

“I have been beaten for staying up late doing homework that I left to the last minute, not washing dishes, talking back, sticking my tongue out at my cousin, breaking a flower pot . . . and many other infractions that I can’t even remember,” she adds.

The use of corporal punishment — both on her and her cousins, she writes — was one Bathe “never thought to question,” calling the beatings that sometimes included belts and extension cords a form of discipline that encouraged a child’s fear of authority.

Sterling K. Brown and Ryan Michelle Bathe.Mike Coppola/Getty

Years later, in 1998, Bathe metThis Is UsactorSterling K. Brownwhile studying at Stanford University. The couple dated on and off for years before getting married in 2007.

But it wasn’t until Bathe and Brown, now 43, welcomed sons Amaré, now 3, andAndrew, 8 this month, that the then-new mom found herself questioning her family’s strict stance on raising children — and quickly realized her approach to parenthood would be much different.

“The good news is that my husband and I are in agreement about corporal punishment.” She adds, “So we continue forward. Praying for guidance. Hoping that love will be enough.”

To read Ryan Michelle Bathe’s full essay, pick up the latest issue ofPEOPLE, on newsstands Friday.

source: people.com